Hayley Solich and Adonijah

Hayley and Adonijah Solich

My 7-year-old son walked into my office today and pronounced, “Mum, burps mean ‘yes’ and farts mean ‘no’.”

I just looked at him and said tentatively, “Yes….”

And he continued, “So, ask me a question…”

Well what is a mother to do?

I asked him, “Do you love Jesus?”

Responsed, “Burp!”

I asked him, “Do you love Mummy?”

Response, “Burp!”

I asked him, “Do you love sharing a room with your sisters?”  (Who incidentally he describes as “The Bitches”)

Response, “Burp!”

So I thought I’d really test him out and asked him, “Do you love cleaning?” (Knowing full well he hates it!)

Response, a very strained face with his bottom pressed out and the comment, “That was a fart!”

LOL…you’ve just gotta love his maleness.

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If you are a parent you’re going to related to this.

As you may or may not be aware, I have four children and they are great kids but sincerely they can be quite a handful.  I love my kids dearly, but they can take me from 0 to 10 on the anger scale in about 5 mins, cause that’s about how long it takes them to trash a clean house!

We have just started the school holidays and I made it my goal that these holidays we are going to nail keeping the house clean and being respectful to one another.  I was determined that I was going to reinstate my rights as the rightful ruler of my house (which have been eroded because of my focus on other things) and that they were going to learn submission if it killed me!  I simply was over all the yelling, bitching and fighting…I was going to make a difference and motivate my group to great success – or so went my daydream!

I would like to think that someone could come to our home at any time of the day or night and that I would not be embarassed.  I don’t really think it’s an unreasonable request that my children participate in house cleaning, but it certainly does become THE issue in our home and often.  So you can imagine how flabbergasted I was when my 7 year old son declared to me on the first day  of the holidays, “Mum, I’m on holidays.  Don’t ask me to do anything cause this is my holiday and that means I don’t have to do anything you say.”

Well, that was a bit like waving a red flag in front of my face!  I proceeded to march him around the house, him screaming at me that he was not going to do anything, and me patiently and quietly suggesting that he will.  There was the 15 minutes of standing facing the wall stand off, but eventually he caved because I kept starting the clock again everytime he screamed at me about the injustice of him having to pick up after himself.

Seriously, when you are able to distance yourself from the emotion it is hilarious to watch the way children try to manipulate their parents to get out of doing stuff!

Wow, if only life could be that simple.  I’d love to be able to declare to my children, my husband, my clients, the whole world in fact that hey, I’m on holidays and don’t ask me to do ANYTHING!!!

Suffice to say, the war has begun and now more than ever I am determined to come out on top.  It’s four against one, but with my brain and brawns I must have some hope of success…don’t I?

As I type this I am in the midst of a war zone with my 12 year old who has declared that she is NEVER doing the dishes again.  Well if I let her win that battle then I’m going to be the resident dish scrubber and surely I should have been promoted by now.  I’ve told her if that if she doesn’t pull her head in I’m going to record her bad behaviour and put it up on Facebook…she blanched.  Mmm…seems like there is still some tricks in the Mummy persuasion tool bag yet.

Love to hear your stories about how you get children to do the things you need them to do.

I’m in the midst of moving house.  Why?  Because it was the right thing to do for all my family and I guess, for me.  Yet as I packed the boxes and dragged my feet, my body was telling me that I am just getting too old for this kind of thing.

I used to love moving.  It was such a joy to get a new house and set it up.  I couldn’t wait to arrange the furniture, to hang the curtains and pictures.  But I am just not as young as I used to be.  Now my feet are burning, my legs aching, my back feeling the strain.  It wouldn’t be so bad if you didn’t have to bend to pick up the kids things!  Boy, oh, boy are they messy.

And I guess inside I am making all those new year resolutions like, I’m never gonna let the kids make this much mess again; They are going to have to be so much cleaner, etc.

Well talk to me in a month and I will probably be singing the praises as I have halved the time to get to school and back.  Not to mention having the in-laws just around the corner, so that when we are sick or in trouble, there is someone close by to watch the kids.

One thing that is really bothering me is how safe I am going to feel in this house.  My previous home was on a small block, hemmed in on every side, so intruders had no way of getting into the yard.  Also, I knew all my neighbours and my children played with their children, so leaving the kids home to go to the shop was not an issue.  I guess I’m just going to have to get used to being there more for everyone and not being as free.

The bonus is that my husband will be joining us again shortly.  I guess then there will be the need to change again.  In the meantime, I’m just going to start to feel more gratitude about the whole situation.  Instead of feeling like I’ve had no choice, I’m going to embrace my personal power and find the joy in the moment.

I guess the good news is, tonight I can run a hot bath and have a long soak in the tub!  Bring it on.

I thought you might like to hear some quotes from real doctors about the vaccination issue:

“The only safe vaccine is a vaccine that is never used.”
–Dr. James A. Shannon National Institutes of Health

“The evidence for indicting immunisations for SIDS is circumstantial, but compelling. However, the keepers of the keys to medical-research funds are not interested in researching this very important lead to the cause of an ongoing, and possibly preventable, tragedy. Anything that implies that immunisations are not the greatest medical advance in the history of public health is ignored or ridiculed. Can you imagine the economic and political import of discovering that immunisations are killing thousands of babies?” Dr William C. Douglass, M.D. (Honored twice as America’s ‘Doctor of the Year’)

“Only after realising that routine immunisations were dangerous did I achieve a substantial drop in infant death rates. The worst vaccine of all is the whooping cough vaccine… it is responsible for a lot of deaths and for a lot of infants suffering irreversible brain damage. In susceptible infants, it knocks their immune systems about, leading to irreparable brain damage, or severe attacks or even deaths from diseases like pneumonia or gastro-enteritis and so on”. Dr Kalokerinos, M.D.

“There is no evidence whatsoever of the ability of vaccines to prevent any diseases. To the contrary, there is a great wealth of evidence that they cause serious side effects. Dr. Viera Scheibner

“My data proves that the studies used to support immunisation are so flawed that it is impossible to say if immunisation provides a net benefit to anyone or to society in general. This question can only be determined by proper studies which have never been performed. The flaw of previous studies is that there was no long term follow up and chronic toxicity was not looked at. The American Society of Microbiology has promoted my research…and thus acknowledges the need for proper studies.” John B. Classen, M.D., M.B.A.

“The medical authorities keep lying. Vaccination has been a disaster on the immune system. It actually causes a lot of illnesses. We are changing our genetic code through vaccination.” Guylaine Lanctot M.D. Canadian author of the best-seller ‘Medical Mafia’.

“These data show that DPT vaccination may be a generally unrecognised major cause of sudden infant and early childhood death, and that the risks of immunisation may outweigh its potential benefits. A need for re-evaluation and possible modification of current vaccination procedures is indicated by this study.” William C. Torch, M.D., Director of Child Neurology, Department of Paediatrics, University of Nevada School of Medicine

“The public is surely entitled to convincing proof, beyond all reasonable doubt, that artificial immunisation is in fact a safe and effective procedure, in no way injurious to health, and that the threat of the corresponding natural diseases remain sufficiently clear and urgent to warrant mass inoculation of everyone, even against their will if necessary. Unfortunately, such proof has never been given.” Richard Moskowitz, M.D., Journal of the American Institute of Homeopathy, March 1983 (76:7)

In the May 24, 1996, New Zealand Medical Journal, J. Barthelow Classen, MD, a former researcher at the U.S. National Institutes of Health (NIH) and the founder and CEO of Classen Immunotherapies in Baltimore, reported that juvenile diabetes increased 60 per cent following a massive hepatitis B vaccination campaign for babies six weeks or older in New Zealand from 1988 to 1991. In the October 22, 1997, Infectious Diseases in Clinical Practice, Classen showed that Finland’s incidence of diabetes increased 147 per cent in children under five after three new vaccines were introduced in the 1970s, and that diabetes increased 40 per cent in children aged 5 to 9 after the addition of the MMR and Hib vaccines in the 1980s. He concluded that “the rise in IDDM [juvenile onset diabetes] in the different age groups correlated with the number of vaccines given.”

“This..forced me to look into the question of vaccination further, and the further I looked the more shocked I became. I found that the whole vaccine business was indeed a gigantic hoax. Most doctors are convinced that they are useful, but if you look at the proper statistics and study the instances of these diseases you will realise that this is not so . . . My final conclusion after forty years or more in this business [medicine] is that the unofficial policy of the World Health Organisation and the unofficial policy of the ‘Save the Children’s Fund’ and … [other vaccine promoting] organisations is one of murder and genocide. . . . I cannot see any other possible explanation. . . . You cannot immunise sick children, malnourished children, and expect to get away with it. You’ll kill far more children than would have died from natural infection.” –Dr Kalokerinos MD

If vaccines are so effective in preventing disease why have epidemics occurred around the world following mass vaccination programs? In the Philippines for example, “after ten years of compulsory inoculation against smallpox (25 million shots) over 170,000 got smallpox and 75,000 deaths were recorded between 1911 and 1920″ (from the Townsend Letter for Doctors article “Are Vaccines Generally Detrimental to the Human Defence System,” Feb/Mar 1994).

Even the WHO (World Health Organisation) has admitted, disease and mortality rates in Third World countries have no direct correlation with immunisation procedures or medical treatment, but they are closely related to the standard of hygiene and diet. A 1973 issue of Scientific American revealed the same finding : that “over 90% of all contagious disease was eliminated by vastly improved water systems, sanitation, living conditions and transportation of food.” Mass vaccinations did not appear on the scene until a century after the decline in infectious diseases started (1850-1940), but inoculations were, and still are given full credit. Susan DeSimone

“Up to 90% of the total decline in the death rate of children between 1860-1965 because of whooping cough, scarlet fever, diphtheria, and measles occurred before the introduction of immunisations and antibiotics.”—Dr Archie Kalokerinos, M.D.

“There are significant risks associated with every immunisation and numerous contraindications that may make it dangerous for the shots to be given to your child….There is growing suspicion that immunisation against relatively harmless childhood diseases may be responsible for the dramatic increase in autoimmune diseases since mass inoculations were introduced. These are fearful diseases such as cancer, leukaemia, rheumatoid arthritis, multiple sclerosis, Lou Gehrig’s disease, lupus erthematosus, and the Guillain-Barre syndrome.” Dr Mendelsohn, M.D.

“There is no evidence that any influenza vaccine thus far developed is effective in preventing or mitigating any attack of influenza. The producers of these vaccines know that they are worthless, but they go on selling them, anyway.” Dr. J. Anthony Morris (formerly Chief Vaccine Control Officer at the US Federal Drug Admin.)

“There is a great deal of evidence to prove that immunisation of children does more harm than good.” Dr. J. Anthony Morris (formerly Chief Vaccine Control Officer at the US Federal Drug Admin.)

“Instead of epidemics of measles and polio, we have epidemics of chronic autoimmune and neurological disease: In the last 20 years rates of asthma and attention-deficit disorder have doubled, diabetes and learning disabilities have tripled, chronic arthritis now affects nearly one in five Americans and autism has increased by 300 percent or more in many states.”—-Barbara Loe Fisher

Some doctors refuse to vaccinate their own children as well. According to Dr. Jerome Murphy, former head of PediatricNeurology at Milwaukee Children’s Hospital, “There is just overwhelming data that there’s an association [between the pertussis vaccine and seizures]. I know it has influenced many paediatric neurologists not to have their own children immunised with pertussis.” Jerome Murphy, M.D.

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http://www.rense.com/gener al7/onlysafe.htm

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read more here

http://www.thenhf.com/vaccinations_77.htm

Do you know what’s in a vaccine?

My mind was cast back to fun times when I was a kid tonight, when my children, awestruck by the wonder of a hail storm went outdoors to collect up over 9 cups of hail to store in our refrigerator.

The simple joy and wonder of seeing hail for the first time, filled our house with a childish buzz of excitement.  There were cries of “my fingers are freezing” and “quick come and look at this”.  It just reminded me of first times and how they fill us with wonder.  I guess that is the down side of growing older – the whole been there done that part of living.

For your viewing pleasure, I thought we’d share our hailstones with you…now to work out whether they are edible or not!

 

Hailstones in Perth, Western Australia

Hailstones in Perth, Western Australia

I was recommended to watch the 1-2-3 Magic DVD’s by the school my children were attending as I was having difficulty re-asserting my authority following the split from my husband.  Reluctantly, as I have been involved in a few parenting programs with little success, I sat down to watch the DVD.  I was pleasantly surprised that firstly it was funny and that secondly the suggestions made by the Psychologist actually worked.

Some highlights for me were that he was telling me:

1.  We talk adult talk to children and need to stop over explaining EVERYTHING.

2.  We talk way too much to children!

3.  We complicate what can be a simple disciplinary process.

4.  There is no need for there to be agro in disciplining children.

The proof that this program is appealing is in that my husband, who is VERY resistant to any kind of guidance in this arena, actually sat through the entire DVD and came in and said, “It’s great.  I think it will work.  Let’s do it.”

I had been listening to him cackling through the window, so his approval was a bonus.  

And we have implemented it and guess what?  IT WORKS!

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